Look at me: I gotta case of body language, Freddie Mercury / Queen

Can you attract another person with your body language? According to the studies of human communication 55% of information is conveyed with gestures and mimic, 38% is passed with the aid of frequency of speech and intonations, while only 7% is passed through the meaning of words. Who taught us to speak like this? Was Darwin right about our ancestors? Maybe, but this is not a matter of this article. The matter is: how exactly can one person attract another with body language, is it just like Freddie sang it some years ago?

Looking in the eyes. When we are engaged in a business conversation, we are usually focused, and it feels like we are looking straight into the eyes of our counterpart. In reality our eyes cannot stay fixed, they scan the face of a person along a tight closed path: left eye – middle space – right eye, and so on. When we are more relaxed, like, for example, we are talking with a friend, eyes still follow the cyclic path, but it is not that tight anymore. Our eyes scanning his (or her) face along an upset triangle with a base slightly below the eye-line and the vertex at the person mouth.

When we are flirting, especially with someone we are seeing for the first time, the area of our eye scan gets even bigger. The more our sexual interest to the person, the more actively we focus on her (his) lips. Likewise, if the person you are talking to cannot lift her (his) eyes from your lips, while you are chatting on how you first time turned to the idea of dating online (or about your recent trip to Guatemala) rest assured: this person is already kissing your lips in her(his) imagination. Thinking this way is equal to wanting.

Monkey me, baby. Can body language reveal any difference between light flirt and strong sexual attraction? Well, if the feelings are really strong, you will tend to mimic the object of your passion. This comes from some indiscernible depths of our instincts, although, on the surface the message seem like saying that we have a lot in common with that person. Now, when you know it, you can conscientiously use this, however, be moderate: total copycatting can be read as a mockery (especially if you indiscreetly reproducing all his or her features, good and bad). When you are following your protagonist always observe at least one minute pause before making your turn.

Say Hi with your eyebrows. Lifting eyebrows is one of the most ancient ways of showing friendliness to another person. If you are getting the same in reply, the feelings are mutual. Maybe this was a greeting of our forbears when they were passing each other caves? Languages came later. Now you can use this old way of winning sympathy.

Where the eyes rest. Watching another person movements (hands and feet) is a general sign of an interest. Seem like a trivial notion, but it is one of the strongest statements of body language. If this person (whom you were watching) notices and moves towards you: the interest is mutual. This is a moment when the body language usually turns into a spoken one!

Wink me back! Have you ever exchanged winks with someone? Wink is a sign of an interest and attraction. No surprise that it is used in the dating networks as an invitation for a chat. Same is in the offline world. If you see someone who is interesting to you, wink her (him). Got wink in reply? Start talking.