No one can predict a woman (even other women), this is why first date always an exciting event for every men. The unknown makes your heart bit faster in anticipation of something great. However, you want to win, not to lose. Where is this difference between victory and loss, between awkwardness and smoothness, between all these small things, which in sum lead to the second date or lead nowhere? Here are seven tips on dating, especially first date, which I am going to share with you.

Tip 1: Prepare your plan of the date thoroughly. Place, time, program: all elements of your first date must be well thought. Moreover, make sure that aside from plan A, you have also plan B: just in case if she would not like something in A or, perhaps, because the meeting place will happen to be closed that day (of course, avoiding things like that is precisely the reason why I am giving you this tip). Use what you already know about her: if she is your online match, then you know her profile and you had enough chat with her to figure this out. For example, if you know that she is not a baseball fan, do not try to convince her that she is missing a great deal of fun in her life, do not take her to a stadium, take her to museum instead. Yes, museum of art would be in many cases the best setting for a first date. Beautiful objects of art, quietness and safety at the same time: what else will give you a better atmosphere for a first romantic meeting? Dont forget: she has never seen you before, so personal safety will be an issue for her (probably not the major one, but, still an issue). From the first meeting point you can move to another (cafe, restaurant, night club), but remember that the choice of the first spot is the most important one.

Tip 2: Do not be late. Psychologists say that opinion about a person is usually formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting: you may not get even that much, if you will get late. If these 15 seconds (or even few minutes) of her time will be filled with waiting, well, you just do not want this to happen. Women hate when someone makes them wait: in this state their mind offers them a million of things which they could do with better outcome than just mere standing and waiting. The rest is just a matter how long she can stand this condition, usually not too long before she will take-off and leave. Then you will arrive and will be waiting for nothing to happen: you have to blame for that yourself!

Tip 3: Your external appearance must be more than just spotless. I am sure you know that without me, but just let me to emphasize this fact, which is never enough to emphasize: you must look great! You better look like you just stepped from a front cover of a fashion magazine (or, at least, try to approach this state as much as you can). After spending at least two hours before mirror she wants to find signs of a similar commitment in you. So do not disappoint her: your attire, your shoes, your fragrance, even the teeth in your smile, everything will be considered over those 15 seconds, which you must win!

Tip 4: Flowers and Flowers only! Rings of pearls (better saltwater), diamonds and everything made out of gold is what 98% of women want to get from you, but do not make this to happen on the first date. Just keep this in mind for the future. On the first date bring her one red rose (or, maybe a dozen, but not overdo it); so she will know that the man she just met has a great taste and is worth (hopefully) to be seen again.

Tip 5: Be kind. Do not afraid of being perceived as an old-fashioned gent. Opening doors before her, pooling chairs for her, letting her in first, and so on will not hurt you at all, just opposite. Even stubborn feminist would like to be treated that way. Help her to take off her coat: you can hug her slightly and this will be a step in a right direction.

Tip 6. Be generous with compliments. This is what every woman would love and will expect from you. Your first words (after the formal intro) should be in any way saying how great, gorgeous, fantastic she looks. In a sense this is one of the tasks which you have to perform over all meeting: finding right moments and giving right compliments any time you have a chance. Your effort will be always appreciated.

Tip 7. Listen more, talk less. Surely she wants to know about you, but even more she wants you to know about her. So allow her to open herself, speak less, listen more. Help her with nodding and short ones, like: I see; Sure; Interesting, etc. If there will be your turn, do not talk much and by all means avoid saying anything about past wives and lovers, health issues, work problems and religion. Your task is to find a topic of common interest and help her to develop it. Show her good sense of humor and leave her to some degree intrigued about you, so there will be something to speak about at the next, and then the next, and then on the following dates, which must happen (or, at least, will be up to you) if you would follow all these tips.

It is easy to tell in a real life how good (or bad) is this man for you. In the virtual world of online dating it can be much harder. Unfortunately, there are enough black sheep on the web, who can nicely present themselves online, hiding their actual face. A few tips below will help you to make a right choice.

1. Take a look at his picture. If his photo is small and out-of-focus, and it is hard to tell his face, because he wears sunglasses, or it is shown at a bad angle, or the image is of full a figure ” it is almost certain that he is trying to conceal his identity. Why he may be doing that? Most likely because he is married.

Many men today are not hiding their married condition, they mere forgetting to mention it. Sometimes this can be revealed in any extra line indicating that the person is “looking for a bed partner”. If so, you can ask them indirectly, like in a line “you are talking as if you are already married”.

2. Be very cautious with personal profiles where the description of a “dream girl” is focused on external appearances and little or nothing is said about her character, interests or background. Certainly, who would be worrying about the background if she looks like a twin of Jessica Simpson or Kate Beckinsale? However, you should worry what you are going to do if your appearance will match the posted requirements. Would it be museum touring, bike riding, or, perhaps, whale watching? Hardly. The owner of such profile most likely wants only one thing from you: having sex.

3. If you see too nice pictures: man with a little kid, or cat on his lap, or something fancy looking like he is in tuxedo, in a limo, etc., be reserved. It can be only nice pictures, while the reality is somewhat different. Kids and cats can be “borrowed” for occasion and image with tux can be clipped from wedding album. Thus, the point is ” do not take all this visual presentation as granted, ask him questions about such pictures: then you may not regret it later on.

4. If man’s profile is incomplete and his answers are like “I would like talk about it later”, then he is likely has full plate of his life already or lazy (or both). In any way don’t expect any changes for better, just drop this person from your list.

5. Check his answer to a question why your past relationship didn’t work. (It can be a question in profile or you can just ask it directly). If he will blame his past girlfriend or wife, then drop him out of your list. We all know that the majority of split-ups are usually due to both sides and you, probably, do not want to be the next one to be blamed.

Here are several more indicators that author of dating profile is merely a philanderer.

- He made several similar profile postings on the same site.

- He appears on his profile portrait hugged by lady’s arms (you may not see her face).

- He posts his annual income figures (over 80 thousand) without any word on his education or profession. In other words good income figures are posted without any explanatory info.

- He posts his phone number and some specific time window when he can be called. Likely this is a married man.

Finally, the bottom line: do not let yourself being caught by classy pictures and shiny profiles: analyze the information, explore it and ask questions.

Dating online in contrast to its counterpart in brick and mortar world, carries one of subtle and yet great advantages. When we meet someone online even for the first time, we already know something about him or she. This is great, because it makes things easier for us. Shy people must love it, because, this helps to overcome the dread of being rejected, which usually makes a first move so difficult in a real world.

Online chat, exchange of emails and phone calls help to make those first moves, which lead you further and beyond the initial barrier. At the same time, you have never met your virtual date in person, so you have to rely on pictures and everything else that this person found useful to pass to you. There is only one way to fill all blanks, it is a meeting in person.

Finding right moment to meet in person (or to quit at once) is a key to success in online dating. That moment comes at some point in every virtual romance, and, most important, it usually does not stays for too long. You intuition should help you to recognize the moment when the time is right and you have to make the next move. Delaying it will be a mistake.

After a brief exchange in the network you will have enough information to conclude either that this person might be the one you were looking for, or not. Of course, if discussions getting too boring and you feel that you lost your interest, it is better to look for someone else before one of you becomes too attached to another. Too prolonged online exchange can cause you these two problems:

1. Keeping online exchange with a person who is not too interesting to you may create a lot of confusion on the other side of the line. Perhaps, this guy or girl sitting in front of another monitor is contemplating some plans on you. It is not fair to give him or her false hope that this virtual connection may be materialized into something more substantial. It is hard to say no sometimes, but this is exactly the case when saying no is better, than getting yourself dragged into an endless and useless connection. Besides, the better you know the person, the harder is to end the virtual exchange with him or her. So you better do it as soon as you feel it, do not let yourself a second thought, and do not give him (or her) a second chance: just move-on!

2. When the actual meeting is delayed, the imagination fills the blanks of a virtual friend. So instead of real person, you will have to deal with some ideal one. If ever the real person will materialize, the mismatch could be quite disappointing for both of you.

The online pool of potential dates is immense, so savvy users of online dating networks use those networks only as a candidate sources, leaving the rest for actual dating. Two or three online messages and set the real date or quit and move for another candidate. This will be the best approach for both sides. There is no need to waste your and his (her) time on lengthy virtual exchange, you better see each other off-line, and either be happy or move on.

Good luck!

In online dating, one of the most important tasks next to preparing personal profile is writing the first message to your prospective match. Here is some advise on how to make it well.

Choice First, address only those people, whose profiles attracted your attention. If you will meet someone of your choice, this already will be worth your effort. If you will not succeed, there is no reason for despair: thousands of new people are joining tens of dating sites daily, so you will be the winner sooner or later. Even if you having a good progress with one person, keep exchange with a few more at the same time. There is nothing wrong with that: by the time when you will get into a real relationship, you better have some options.

The challenge In a natural effort to make a good impression in the first message, many of us becoming either numb and lacking any words, or, even worst, start saying things that better not being said. How not to cross the line from decent self-presentation to a blatant (and hence repulsive) boast?

If your call gets ignored, do not give up, never dwell on it, try improving your writing instead. Develop your own style, which makes you feel good about your literary efforts, try to avoid anything which sounds boring. One of the most successful approaches is writing message as a conversation with your addressee.

Key elements Your letter must be written individually for every candidate. People can easily tell generic letters, because they contain everything about the author, and not a word about other person, not a reflection on other persons profile. Therefore, in your first letter, you must mention something from the profile of your addressee. If you are writing to this person, then there better be a reason: what in this individuals profile turned you on? Ask questions and tell a bit about yourself. The purpose of your first letter is to start a conversation based on mutual interests.

Your toneYou are welcome to tease your addressee in the first message, but do it gently. Avoid writing anything about sex and dont claim yourself being a perfect match to him or her. This is your very first message, so, as long as you knowledge of this person is limited to his (her) personal profile, you better keep a relaxed tone, almost as if this is an introduction to a new business partner.

Final word If your letter is not good enough, you may never hear from him or her back. Try again and always remember, that you probably not the only one who liked this person and your letter may be just one out of many. You have to make it outstanding from this crowd. Give this person a reason to reply. Ask questions, offer your answers, and put some intrigue into it. This is your real chance to get close to this person. And, if you started the dialogue, dont get dragged into a virtual romance, try to move to the next level, seek live date, be pro-active!

Women are unpredictable beings, and even a thought about first date makes majority of men tremble either from agitation, or from fear of being unfit, or both. What line of behavior one should take? Being like a medieval chevalier, confident and benevolent master of his fiefdom, or like a man appreciating the liberties of modern society, who is treating his lady as an equal? Where is this thin line which divides goodness from awkwardness, attraction from repulsion? Here are seven useful tips, which I would like to share with you:

Tip 1: Be a perfect planner. Think over all elements of your first date: time, place, entertainment program. Better: prepare two options, and, if you would feel any hesitation on the other side regarding your best plan, offer plan B. If you met her online, you already know (from her personal profile, from your email exchange) what turns her on. Still, keep in mind that she has never seen you before, so the choice of the place must be such, that she will feel safe and confident there. Looking for a nice and comforting place for first meeting: what that should be? It is always good to propose first meeting at a local museum of art or any other place of this kind. You can always find in such places a small cafe nearby or just a bench to sit and talk, it is usually quiet there, safe and peaceful, and you will be surrounded by beautiful objects of art. From there you can move to whatever is a next stop in your plan: restaurant, cinema, theater, vinery, or night club, however, keep in mind that sometimes it is better to leave such places for the next date.

Tip 2: Be there in time. It is scientifically proven fact that the first 15 seconds of meeting form an opinion about a person. If you will not get there in time, you will not get even these 15 seconds! Nobody likes when someone makes them wait, especially women. They usually fill the waiting time with thinking about million of those useful things, which they could do instead of standing here and just waiting. And, it usually does not take them too long to decide that they better do these things, rather than wasting their time on that slipshod fellow who is obviously not in a hurry to meet her. Likely you will not see her again.

Tip 3: Look neatly. Maybe I should not tell you that, maybe you are well aware of this simple fact, that when you are coming to a date (especially first date) you should look like you just jumped from a vintage postcard! Nevertheless, I have to mention this anyway, at least for the sake of those who forgot this simple rule. Women like when man looks like he took care of his appearance. Of course, everything counts and everything will be noticed: attire, shoes, hair, fragrance, even teeth and fingernails! Undoubtedly, she had spent several hours before mirror, making herself look special so she expects same from you! Do not get me wrong, you do not have to go for a day in a beauty parlor, just put some effort into it, so you will look attractive. Shower, shave, wrinkleless clothes and shiny shoes are those necessary elements which will make you feel good about yourself and help you to win those 15 seconds, which I have mentioned above.

Tip 4: Flowers Rule! Women love getting gifts on any season and occasion (and certainly with no occasion too). This date is the best reason for giving her a gift! The bouquet of flowers is a sure shot. Or, one red rose is even better (not too much and tasty). The majority of women will appreciate such gesture. This will give them a reason to tell the world that they have met a caring man.

Tip 5: Be gentleman. Just keep it old-fashioned way: open doors before her, let her first to the table, pool out a chair for her, etc. If you will have a chance helping her to take off (or put on) her coat: do not miss it, this is a chance to give her a hug, a small step in the right direction. So, the bottom line: be a gentleman, do not fear to be perceived as one: even a diehard feminist will appreciate your efforts.

Tip 6. Be generous with compliments. This is what every woman would love and will expect from you. Your first words (after the formal intro) should be in any way saying how great, gorgeous, fantastic she looks. In a sense this is one of the tasks which you have to perform over all meeting: finding right moments and giving right compliments any time you have a chance. Your effort will be always appreciated.

Tip 7. Listen more than talk. There is no doubt that she is curious about you and there is a plenty of things which she wants to find out. However, it is very likely that even more she wants to tell you about herself. So do not disappoint her, let her speak and help her. Simple nodding from your side will not be enough: keep saying briefly: Yes; Sure, How interesting; Is that right?, etc. Eventually there will be your turn to speak, find some way to return the ball to her field, and while it is still in your hands, by no means mention your past loves, problems at work or with your health and any religious issues. Find the topic of mutual interest and let her develop it. Your good sense of humor will be a big plus. And just keep in mind that you need to save a lot for talking at your next date with her, which will surely happen if you would follow these simple tips.